People seek connections. Humans have been in pursuit of connecting with others throughout history. Back in the day, women would assemble to do charity work alongside one another. Dating back to the Pony Express, loved ones would send word from afar. The Post Office reports 500 million pieces of mail being processed and delivered each day. The telephone brought about countless conversations and late night talks. The internet connected all regions of the planet and effectively laid the groundwork for an international community. Emails pass along thoughts and ideas instantly. Text messages are part of our daily lives in sharing quick thoughts with one another. Even Grandma is on Facebook in an effort to stay connected to what is happening in her grandchildren’s lives. Think about it. Wanting to connect is a part of our human existence.
Fundamentally, connecting is easy to do. The grey area comes in when we choose how to connect and how do we present ourselves when we do so. Are we our most authentic selves in each of these forums? Do we understand the social policies attached to each one of these means of communications? Whether shooting over a quick text or bringing Grandma lunch, we want to stay true to our higher selves. Imagine if everyone behaved online as they did in person. The impact on social media alone would be staggering. Try and consider this before posting something judgmental or aggressive. Would you go to a party and make loud announcements as is commonly done online? Even though your peeps are not standing in front of you meeting your gaze, they seek connection with you. Back in the day, we were told not to break up with someone on the phone, and that should be done in person. Nowadays, the question is whether it is okay to break up with someone over a text. The consensus now says it’s okay to call and break up with them, but to text would be rude. What changed? The message? The forum? Consider this. Times change and they will continue to do so whether we are on board or not.
So I challenge you next time you see someone refer to social media as “faKebook”, to ask yourself…is that true? Or is it a matter of some peeps not being their most authentic self online? Embrace whatever forum of communication you like, but show up as your best self across the board.